Tuesday, March 17, 2009
Thats what friends are forCategories: Life in progress Alchemy
I did something not so long ago that wasn’t good. And I knew it wasn’t good. I was blind, but at the same time, I knew I was in trouble. I thought about keeping it all to myself, but I knew that if I did that, I would not be able to get out of it. I would lie to myself and twist the truth around to suit the reality.
So I talked my friends about it. They told me I was doing the wrong thing and I defended myself because there is not much else you can do at the time. But I heard what they said, and over time their words sank in. And eventually I stopped doing the wrong thing, because in the end it was their big kicks in the pants shook the blindness out of me and got me to take action. I love my friends for their honesty, I know that what they said was coming from a good place, and I’m glad I trusted my instincts and told them about it. They may have lost respect for me, but I gained a new appreciation of them. Thanks gals.
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Comments
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The Goddess (At the office) said on 09/03/17 at 11:37 PM.....
A true friend will tell you the truth and not just what you want to hear. I hope that you will do the same for me….
Our friends are fabulous sounding boards in getting stuff that is inside your head out in the fresh air where you can evaluate them openly. We all need this from time to time - we have all been there babe. Friends respect each other more for trusting each other enough to talk about the good and the bad and the ugly stuff.
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j-ster (still too close to the noisy cars) said on 09/03/18 at 04:01 PM.....
Very true, and thank you once again!
Mind you, I think there is a time to speak up and a time to keep quiet. As Pavlov’s Cat suggested recently, “good friendships rely on the occasional and loving suppression of honest opinions” (she’s over at http://stilllifewithcat.blogspot.com/ and the comment is in the context of interactions on Facebook), and I think that’s a good point too…
I needed the feedback tho. Im too good at lying to myself sometimes.
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The Goddess (At the office) said on 09/03/18 at 11:12 PM.....
Yes of course opinions are kept to oneself for the most part, but when honesty is specifically asked for….... different story.
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indigorayz said on 09/03/24 at 02:44 AM.....
“There are no mistakes,no coincidences.All events are given to us to learn from” - Elizabeth Kubler-Ross
A true friend will allow you the freedom to be you, and allow you to make mistakes and will definately be there to pick up the pieces. Trust that your judgements about yourself are forgiveable and it is that forgiveness that you will see in the mirror of your friendships! xxxxxxxxxx