Sunday, May 29, 2011
Note to self re battles with the girl all up in my face on a daily basisDon’t ask: “Why does she push my buttons?”
Ask instead: “Why do I react?”
There is no good outcome from reacting. Weasel out of the prying, determined-to-engage questions and remember that you are only reacting because you have momentarily forgotten your power.
Even when you think you are helping, you are not helping. Everything you say goes through a series of filters that makes it impossible to hear the hints, suggestions and subtleties. This is not your battle, you don’t need to fix anything.
Stop analysing, justifying, blaming and rationalising. Give her what she wants, what she needs, and be kind. This is all you need to do.
Thank you for your patience. Here is a picture of a cute lizard.
Back to study.
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Comments
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Kristen (Tokyo) said on 11/05/30 at 12:12 AM.....
Good advice to your self. Cute lizard.
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MJD-S (Cairns, Queensland) said on 11/05/30 at 06:39 AM.....
Very cute lizard!
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MK - Sealth (United Kingdom) said on 11/11/03 at 12:07 AM.....
Never thought a lizard can be….
